I read this from Dr Wayne Dyer, another of my favorite authors. This is verbatim quote from him and I did not see a need to add anything else.
“You always have options. In every situation, you can choose how you are going to deal with it and how you are going to feel about it. The word option is most important, since you will be encouraged to have an open mind about attitudes which may well have kept you closed to being creatively alive. Wherever you find yourself in your life, whatever the circumstances, you can make the situation into a learning or growing experience, and you can choose not to be emotionally immobilized. Whether you are in a hospital bed, a prison, a routine job, in Hogwart Junction, the New York City slums, Wide-Spot-in-the-Road, Missouri, or on a long trip – the setting is irrelevant. You can be alive enough to get something out of the experience, and you can either like where you are, or if you prefer, work at moving to another, more fulfilling place. “
“ By “creative” I don’t mean having a specialized skill in the arts, or being able to create culturally. “Creative” here has nothing to do with music, literature, art, science, or any of the typical definitions attached to it. When it comes to aliveness, “creative” refers to the individual’s capacity to apply himself to any undertaking in the world. If you consult yourself rather than a manual or somebody else’s idea of how things should be done, you can be creative in doing anything. “
“ Creative aliveness means looking around any setting where you find yourself and asking, “How can I make this into a terrific experience? What can I say, think, feel or do that will bring about learning and fulfillment for me?” This kind of an attitude is yours to have if you decide to want it, and to stop allowing yourself to be victimized by yourself or those around you.
Your capacity to be creatively alive in virtually all life circumstances will depend in large part upon the kind of attitude you choose for yourself. The most crucial test of your attitude development will be in the face of adversity, rather than while things are running smoothly.
You may find it much easier, albeit far more self-destructive, to give in to adversity and become a victim of your sour feelings. But if you are effective enough at not having victim expectations, you can also work at turning misfortune around and even making it work in your favor. The cornerstone of your attitude must be alertness for taking advantage of your situations, making your expectations revolve around wanting to emerge as a non-victim, and looking hard for the right kind of opportunity. Even if the opportunity does not surface, you can keep your attitude positive so that your glumness does not blind you to potential advantage.
You are the product of what you choose for yourself in every life situation. You do have the capacity to make healthy choices for yourself by changing your attitude to one of creative aliveness. By being ever alert for turning adversity around, by improving your attitudes and expectations for yourself, and by fearlessly implementing risk-taking alternatives, you’ll soon be gratified by the way your life can take a turn for the better. Be fully alive while you’re here on this planet; you’ll have an eternity to experience the opposite after you leave.”
— Dr. Wayne W. Dyer